I'm Managing My Former Peers. Now What?

You just got promoted. Congratulations. You're now managing people who were your equals last week. Here's what nobody tells you: the hardest part isn't managing your former peers. It's that you haven't stopped being their peer yet. The Problem Isn't Your Old Relationships Most advice about managing former peers focuses on "establishing authority" or "setting boundaries." That's not wrong, but it misses the real issue. The problem is you're still thinking like a peer. You still wait for consensus before making calls. You still answer every question directly instead of asking why they're asking. You still treat decisions like group projects instead of your job. Your team isn't confused about the org chart. They're confused because you are. What It's NOT It's not treating everyone the same. You think fairness means acting like nothing changed. It doesn't. Your friend who struggles with deadlines needs different m...